Refrigerator Prepping: Mission “Eat These Groceries”

Refrigerator Prepping: Mission “Eat These Groceries”

Since returning from Guatemala my eating habits have been horrendous.  Just plain gross. I ate so healthy in Guatemala, the land of daily farmers markets and cheap produce-Hey, did you know that all the local goodness at the farmers market in Coban is not all grown by the farmers selling?  Did you know that some of the people selling aren’t farmers at all?  Shocking right (as I clench my chest struggling for air).  I looked back on photos taken while exploring the market and some of the bags of apples had PRODUCE TAGS ON THEM!  Like the tags they scan AT THE GROCERY STORE as you stand at the register!  Or could the vendors also sell to local grocers and whatever they don’t sell at market, they just send to the store?  Nope.  Doubt it. [...]

26 hour journey to Atlanta: We ate at Old Lady Gang

26 hour journey to Atlanta: We ate at Old Lady Gang

In commemoration of the new season of The Real Housewives of Atlanta (no, I do not watch this show or any other show for that matter-we have a Firestick and internet only.  No, not a fully loaded, or even partially loaded one, just the basic one where you pay for add-ons and subscriptions.  Let me back track, I did pay for the last 3 seasons of being Mary Jane because I LOVE MARY JANE PAUL.  She is me, I am her, we are Pauletta (in my soul at least).  Okay, and I have paid for the past 2 sessions of How to get Away with Murder but haven’t committed to splurging on the current season). Back to the matter at hand!  I didn’t blog about it, but I spent two weekends in a row in Atlanta this part September-can you believe that it’s already November?  Let’s hear it for Thanksgiving. Euphoria rings through my food-loving flesh at the thought of dressing With cranberry sauce Collards And cornbread baked to golden brown perfection in a cured, cast iron skillet [...]

Shaking off the funk: Ashley we are not a princess

Shaking off the funk: Ashley we are not a princess

I’ve concluded that the Vtine (theBpum as you know me) is a spoiled, fortunate, truly privileged young whiner!  Yes, it is true, I am one of those people who is so blessed, so favored, that when things don’t go exactly my way I crumble.  “That sounds completely insane right”, I ask with my legs crossed as I sit at my comfy kitchen table.  Drinking my $1.06 Arabian bean, partially burnt (I swear) Mcdonald’s coffee, complemented with six teaspoons of sugar and three Coffee Mate original creamers.    Being favored and loved deeply is a blessing and a curse!  It has created a little Frankenstein and the more I am favored, the more the little monster inside me feeds and grows bigger (clearly Halloween is still on the brain). [...]

A fresh 30 year old’s letter to her 20-something self

A fresh 30 year old’s letter to her 20-something self

Ashley, young, glorious, courageous, curious child You have grown Grown into a confident, honest, humble, vulnerable being Twenties were fun, spontaneous, reckless, painful, disappointing and full of meaningful experiences You made it and now stand on the other side, reflective and grateful You’ve learned patience, understanding, compassion, love and how to walk away You’ve experienced heartbreak, shame, sorrow and forgiveness Been uncertain about who you were and your worth Allowed others to define you That doesn’t work so well young dreamer [...]

Millennial “my life is hard” rant

Millennial “my life is hard” rant

Why didn’t anyone tell me life as an entrepreneur was so hard! Nobody speaks about the adversity of struggling to build a brand and a business Nobody is on Instagram with a sad face and a bank account statement with a negative balance No one is making the tough decision between going to dinner and staying home to eat the same dish you’ve been making with slight modifications for the past month. No one explained to me that the money I had saved up was actually NOT going to be considered savings once I quit a full-time job. The warmth and comfort of a full-time job is soothing. Familiar. Going to bed knowing that a check will welcome you every other Friday whether you deserve it or not is like sniffing heaven. [...]

Loved on by Black Queens in Albuquerque, New Mexico

Loved on by Black Queens in Albuquerque, New Mexico

I had the awesome opportunity to facilitate a conference in Albuquerque, New Mexico   No, I am not someone who has facilitated a conference in experiences past But I’ve done similar facilitator roles Like… teach a lesson re-teach a lesson lead a meeting train new hires using a curriculum initiate uncomfortable conversations with ex-boyfriends listen to their whack-ass arguments and use the asinine responses to build my case, come back with rapid fire, and ensure we never forgot my initial points debate with my mother, in attempt to bribe or convince her with a scheme Go back and forth, deliberating intellectually with teachers-in elementary school Yep, qualifications of a facilitator if you ask me (shoulders shrugging as my head tilts towards the right) [...]

Dreaming is the easy part

Dreaming is the easy part

Finished breakfast.  If you follow me on Instagram, you probably guessed that it was a combination of collard greens, onions, jalapeno, soy sauce and teriyaki with a side of fruit that I generally finish while in the process of slicing it.   I have pretty much enjoyed the same breakfast for the past few weeks-that is, when I’m actually in the city.  Now that breakfast is done, I am sitting in my kitchen, blessed by the sunlight that warms my tanned shoulders, back and spirit as it beams through my windows.   Jhene Aiko’s latest album, Trip is blaring through my Iphone speakers and my fingers, gleefully type away. [...]